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When you realize you are Goth. Tips & Information to help you.

Updated: Apr 10, 2018

Dateline: Seattle, March 2016 -Trouble

So you have figured out you’re different then most people. You are a little darker in nature. You see beauty in something that others might find dark, depressing or even morbid. You my friend, are a Dark Soul. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. No it doesn’t mean you are depressed.

No you are not into Satan and the occult. So don’t let those stereotypes deter you from realizing who you really are. Goth is not associated with one particular religion. Trust me, we have every religion you can imagine represented in our community here at Gothic.Life. And we embrace every one.

So, where do we start? Let’s start with where Goth began.

Goth was born out of a music movement many decades ago. Of course has been around for centuries, but it wasn’t actually labeled Goth till multiple decades ago. And while Goth was first labeled from music, it has grown into so much more. Now Goth is an entire subculture that incorporates art, fashion, makeup, music, style, personalities and on and on. Goth is more of a state of mind. Someone that considers themselves a Dark Soul. Someone that sees beauty in the dark. Beauty in something off the beaten path. These are Dark Souls.

Research the history of Goth. Check out websites, blogs, tutorials, and books. You can never learn too much.

Music. This is a touchy subject. Because so many people get finicky on what is or isn’t Goth. There are obvious choices that are the foundation of Goth music. And then there are so many bands and singers out today that could be considered Goth. But then there are the hardcore elitist Goths that

don’t want you to lump in symphonic metal, or metal or ethereal Goth into the “GOTH” music scene. So my advice to you is research and find out what you like. You don’t have to like certain bands, it’s about finding out who you are and what you like.

Variations of the Culture. There are so many branches of the Goth culture. There is Metal Goth, Nu Goth, Pastel Goth, Victorian Goth, Cyber Goth, Lolita Goth and the list goes on and on. Research the different kinds of Goth. You might find that you are a little of several different types of Goths.

Fashion. You can put together your own wardrobe from thrift shops, Ebay, making your own clothes and even piece together things you find at the mall. You also can buy Goth brands and ready made

outfits. Here are a couple of tips to start your Goth wardrobe.

A few suggestions to start your wardrobe are: black boots, black T-shirt, corset, leggings or pants, tights. You don’t have to run out and buy everything at once. Slowly build your wardrobe one item at a time. This allows you to figure out what you like and it’s easier on your wallet.

Makeup. You don’t have to wear makeup to be Goth. There are a lot of goths that don’t wear makeup. Having said that, makeup is a huge part of the culture. Some key elements are eyeliner and lipstick. You will notice that a lot of Goths wear cat-eyeliner or a variation of it and dark, vampy lips or black lips. The main key is find what you like and experiment. You will settle into your own style and that is what Goth is all about.

Hair. For me, hair is such a self-expression. Whether you rock your natural color or choose a color, its something to have fun with.

Decorating Your House/Room Your room or your house is an expression of yourself. When you find something you like, add it to your room. One way to make your furniture look Goth is to paint it black or any other color you

like. Now remember, if it’s your parents furniture you need to ask their permission. You can check out some links below for inspiration on painting your furniture.

You can also find an old chandelier at a garage sale and replace your light fixture with it. A friend of mine painted a gaudy ugly gold chandelier red with spray paint and it looked AMAZING. Just an idea!

Painting your walls (with permission) is another way to decorate your room. You can paint the frame of your mirror too. I would suggest you not paint EVERYTHING black. Play with colors and accent the black with other ideas. You could surprise yourself (and your parents) with how amazing your room looks. Check out ideas in the photos below.

Friends. Be prepared for people to not understand you or react when you choose to start expressing yourself with Goth looks. It’s okay. Don’t freak out. Your real friends will understand that this is who you are and will accept you. You also can explore new friends.

Talking to parents. If you are a baby bat, someone we consider a teenager and just getting into Goth, ease into the culture. It is also a great idea to talk to your parents about it. Be respectful when you talk to them. Assure them that this is about expressing yourself and not about rebellion or drugs or Satan. A good way to do this is to keep your grades up, stay away from drugs and alcohol till of legal age and continue to communicate maturely with your parents.

Find things that you like. Browse through our website and you will find clothing, music, art, makeup and so much more that you like and that will inspire you. Grow from your own inspiration. And if

you ever need somewhere to look for advice you can browse our website for articles with the search feature. We have articles about dealing with mean people, dating someone that isn’t Goth, and so much more.

We are here for you!


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